Self Care During COVID-19

May 19, 2020

I’m sure you have heard the buzz word, or even uttered it yourself lately: “SELF-CARE”. Earlier this week, a friend texted to check on how I was doing amidst this new life we are currently living. She mentioned how she is “taking the time to 

self care.” I was perplexed on what that even means during this pandemic. I responded with, “I don’t even know how to start w/ the self care [insert perplexed emoji here].” She broke it down simply, “face masks, eat good food for you, go on walks, FaceTime family/friends. Take breaks during the work day!” The irony is that, I was in fact partaking in these self care activities, however a part of me felt as though I should be doing more. 

In our last newsletter, Sadiq eloquently expressed the importance of duality, a role new to many, and the significance of showering others with blessings. However, the idea of duality and showering others with blessings can only occur if you are present within yourself. Why did I feel as though I was not doing enough self care? I still have the same 24 hours as B.C. (before COVID-19). I was making a never ending list of “to-do’s” before this quarantine phase is over… learn to play the guitar, take drawing lessons, learn Arabic… AND Spanish, intro to yoga and meditation, start training for the next marathon. You get the picture. Somewhere around day 21 of quarantine, I realized my self-care was becoming synonymous with my goals. The list became overwhelming, and I found myself anxious I had not started these new habits. I am now content with practicing the same self-care methods that revitalized me B.C. 

During this current climate, it may appear as though we no longer have autonomy. However, we do have personal power. A term I was just reminded of – personal power is about living life intentionally with a sense of purpose and optimism. What stops us from being present is equated to a lack of sense of power. “Power activates the approach system; powerlessness activates the inhibition system.” I encourage you to take ownership of your personal power with these 10 steps.

  • Acknowledge and declare your ambition 
  • Replace negative self-talk with positive affirmations
  • Advocate for yourself and others
  • Ask for help when you need it
  • Speak up and share your opinions and ideas
  • Acknowledge your fears
  • Schedule quiet time
  • Build a supportive network
  • Maintain a growth mindset
  • Practice self-care

You are the only one who knows how to best replenish your body and soul. I am just here to remind you to re-fuel and re-energize. After perusing through this newsletter, be mindful of your presence, and choose/ schedule whatever works for you. This is the only way to maintain your personal power over time. If you do find yourself in front of hurdles as you work towards your personal power, just remember that challenges should be seen as opportunities, not as threats!

What has been working for you thus far? What would you like to introduce to your self-care practice? Please do share, shaile@marylandmentor.net

I’ll leave you with the 4/7/8 breathing technique 

Be well, Be safe… & Be Kind to yourself,
Sara